Finding our way through a world filled with paradox, mystery, and uncertainty is an experience that often feels like grasping at shadows—fleeting moments of understanding that dissipate just as quickly as they arrive.
In this world, clarity is not a fixed destination but a constantly shifting horizon. The more I engage with life, the more I realize that certainty is an illusion, a comforting story we tell ourselves to mask the deeper, more unsettling truth — the nature of reality is inherently paradoxical.
I’ve often found myself standing at crossroads where the decision before me seemed impossibly tangled. One instance that stands out was a time I faced a life-altering move to a new city. I had spent years building a community, only to feel the gravitational pull of change nudging me toward a new adventure. It wasn’t a matter of right or wrong; it was a choice between equally compelling paths.
The ambiguity was maddening, my mind oscillating between fear of the unknown and the comfort of the familiar. I yearned for a sign, a flash of insight that would tell me unequivocally which path to choose.
At moments like these, I’ve turned to the wisdom of the Tao Te Ching, the I Ching, and various other Chinese works. Not because they provide answers in the conventional sense, but because they unravel the very need for absolute answers.
The Tao Te Ching, with its poetic enigmas, challenges the mind to embrace paradox. It teaches that to gain clarity, one must first relinquish the need for it. "The Tao that can be told is not the eternal Tao," Laozi writes, suggesting that the essence of life cannot be captured by fixed definitions or rigid expectations. To truly see, one must look beyond the binaries of yes or no, right or wrong, and sink into the fluidity of being.
In another instance, I found myself caught in the undertow of a relationship that was both nurturing and draining. The push and pull of emotions blurred my vision, and I struggled to discern whether staying or leaving was the path that aligned with my true self.
I turned to the I Ching for insight, casting the hexagrams as a way to engage in a dialogue with the universe. The response I received was Hexagram 40, "Deliverance," which spoke to the release of tension and the need for liberation. The ambiguity of the message did not prescribe a course of action but invited me to reflect on what "liberation" meant in my context. It asked me to consider what I needed to free myself from—fear, expectations, or perhaps even the relationship itself.
The I Ching, often referred to as the Book of Changes, reflects the very nature of life itself—constantly in flux, never static. It does not predict the future but instead provides a mirror to the present moment, helping us see our inner landscape more clearly.
It encourages us to become aware of the forces at play, both within and around us, so we can respond rather than react. It illuminates the subtle interplay between fate and free will, teaching that while we cannot control the external world, we have agency over how we align ourselves with its flow.
Chinese oracles and the Taoist philosophy behind them teach us that the path to clarity is not a straight line but a meandering journey. They suggest a dance with the unknown, an acceptance that uncertainty is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be embraced.
The Tao Te Ching speaks to the wisdom of non-action, or "wu wei," which does not imply passivity but rather a deep attunement to the natural rhythms of life. When we stop forcing outcomes, clarity often emerges organically, like a river carving its course through rock over time.
I have come to see that in moments of decision or direction where clarity eludes me, it is not because the answer is hidden; it is because the answer does not exist in the way my logical mind demands.
The Tao Te Ching, the I Ching, and Chinese oracles are not tools to solve the puzzle of life but guides to help us appreciate the puzzle for what it is—a beautiful, mysterious, and ultimately unknowable dance of opposites.
In this journey, we learn that clarity is not about having all the answers but about finding peace with the questions. It is about cultivating a mindset that is flexible, open, and willing to be guided by the subtle signs and synchronicities of life. As I continue to wrestle with decisions, I find solace in the paradoxical wisdom of the Tao: the less I seek certainty, the more clarity I seem to find.
How about you?
The first thought that popped in my head was “the unclarity is the point” (of the journey)....but when I was sick last week I can’t say I appreciated not knowing how long the viscous sore throat would last. As always, easier to recognize the teaching than practicing when the shit hits the fan.
Extending to your comments on the I Ching, another thought that came to mind is “should the goal of divination is be better finding questions”. As an architect, I prefer the pretty pictures of the tarot, but I bristle at interpretation schemes that result in easy answers. I’m certain that’s because my first (self taught) serious entry into the practice was through. With the changing lines, I love how each I Ching reading is always a process from one state moving into another.