There is a certain deliciousness in being an enigma, a pleasure in weaving a cloak of mystery so finely spun that it defies even the sharpest gaze.
Personally, I revel in the joy of being puzzling and elusive, not merely as a pastime but as a philosophical dance with the paradoxes and uncertainties of life.
It's an art form, a soulful rebellion against the mundane and the predictable, and a delightful homage to the profound complexities that make our existence so wonderfully baffling.
Consider the musings of Taoist sage Zhuangzi, who invites us to embrace the flux of life, the inherent contradictions that challenge our understanding. He writes:
“The perfect man employs his mind as a mirror. It grasps nothing, it refuses nothing. It receives but does not keep.”
Like Zhuangzi's mirror, my enigmatic self reflects the myriad possibilities of existence, ever-changing and never fixed, a testament to the beauty of life's impermanence.
To be mysterious is to indulge in the wisdom of the Greek Stoic philosopher Epictetus, who teaches us to focus on what is within our control and let go of what is not. In my inscrutability, I find a sanctuary from the world's relentless demands for clarity and conformity.
“It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters,” Epictetus might remind us.
My reaction, often veiled and unpredictable, is my silent rebellion, a statement that not all must be known or understood.
Then there’s Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius, whose meditations whisper to us about the nature of the self and the universe. “The universe is about change — our life is what our thoughts make it,” he muses.
By rocking my enigmatic self, I find a playground for my thoughts, an arena where I can shape my reality away from prying eyes and hasty judgments. It’s a space where I can ponder the cosmic dance, where I can be both the observer and the observed, yet never fully reveal either role.
In modern times, my favorite philosopher, theologian and public intellectual Cornel West inspires with his soulful articulation of love and justice. He speaks of living in a state of profound questioning, embracing the uncertainties and complexities of life. “To be human, you have to bear witness to justice,” he asserts.
My enigma bears witness to a different kind of justice—the justice of the individual, the right to remain an unsolved mystery in a world obsessed with solutions.
Being enigmatic isn’t merely a whim, it’s a deeply rooted philosophy — a celebration of the paradoxical nature of existence. Life itself is an enigma—beautifully complex, serenely unpredictable, and gloriously resistant to simplistic interpretations.
To mirror this in my being is to align with the very essence of existence, to dance with the unknown and to savor the thrill of ambiguity.
For those willing to walk the path of the enigmatic, the benefits are manifold:
Liberation from Judgment: When you are hard to grasp, you evade the simplistic judgments of others. Your mystery becomes your shield, protecting your true self from the intrusive assessments of a world eager to pigeonhole.
Depth of Connection: Genuine connections are forged not through complete understanding but through shared mysteries. Those who dare to explore your enigma with you are the ones who truly value the depths of your soul.
Creative Freedom: The enigmatic spirit is a fertile ground for creativity. It allows you to explore different facets of your personality without being confined to a single narrative.
Authentic Living: Embracing your mystery means living authentically. It’s a rejection of the superficial, a commitment to the complexity that makes you uniquely you.
Embracing Uncertainty: By being enigmatic, you practice living with uncertainty. This fosters resilience and flexibility, key traits for navigating the unpredictable currents of life.
Inspiring Curiosity: Your enigmatic nature sparks curiosity in others, encouraging them to question and explore rather than accept the status quo.
So, I continue to revel in my enigma, a delightful dance with the unknown, a celebration of life's inherent mysteries.
In a world that clamors for clarity, I choose to be the question mark, the dot-dot-dot at the end of a sentence, the tantalizing ellipsis that promises more but never fully reveals.
And in this choice, I find a profound joy, a soulful rebellion, and a deep connection with the beautiful, perplexing essence of existence itself.
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It is this "ever-changing and never fixed, a testament to the beauty of life's impermanence." that allows us the great privilege, and I would add blessing, to live fully, up to the brim, spilling over with gratitude. No need to grasp and hold onto, just go in and with the flow.
Actually, you seem pretty clear to me. But maybe I'm not embracing your ellipses enough?