Is Our World Crushing Meaningful Connection?
Assessing the Quiet Cost of a Distracted Mindset
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The Tao Te Ching: 9th Verse (Overfulfillnent)
— Ralph Alan Dale Translation
Keep filling your bowl, and it will spill over.
Keep sharpening your knife, and it will be blunt.
Keep hoarding gold in your house, and you will be robbed.
Keep seeking approval, and you will be chained.
The Great Integrity leads to actualization, never over fulfillment.
We live in a world shaped by competition.
Our world whispers that success lies in accumulating more…….more money, more status, more possessions. “Having it all” is seductive, but beneath its shiny veneer lies a question: At what cost?
For many, the answer is evident in the emptiness that lingers after every race toward the next achievement. The pursuit of “more” has left us isolated, disconnected, and longing for something we can’t quite name.
I observe this everywhere—the friction of a competitive mindset turning us against one another. Strangers in traffic fight for the quickest lane. Colleagues withhold collaboration in favor of career advancement.
Even friendships and families aren’t immune. We feel the pressure to keep up appearances, to prove our worth through what we have and what we achieve. Beneath this culture of competition lurks the unspoken truth — when life is reduced to a zero-sum game, no one truly wins.
Walking a Simpler Path
My life has followed a different rhythm, one less defined by the trappings of success. I have lived simply and nomadically, avoiding the gravitational pull of accumulating more than I need.
Honestly, I can’t say that this choice was always deliberate. Rather, it was born out of instinct and an inner knowing that the endless chase for “more” wasn’t my path.
Without a home cluttered by material possessions or a schedule weighed down by obligations, I’ve found freedom in the open space of “enough.”
The world has been my teacher. A cup of tea shared with a stranger, a quiet moment watching a sunset, the rhythm of my breath during qigong practice—these moments are my treasures. By avoiding the endless competition for more, I’ve learned to find richness in simplicity and connection.
In this simplicity, I have also rediscovered the beauty of interdependence. Living lightly has taught me to co-create with others and to share what has been gifted to me.
Taoism reminds us that the river doesn’t hoard its water, nor does the sun withhold its warmth. Life flows when we live in mutual exchange, not individual isolation.
The Buddhist Lesson of the Bowl
Buddhist wisdom offers a profound metaphor for moving beyond competition through what is known as the “concept of the bowl.”
In its ideal state, a bowl holds only what is needed, not more. To overfill it is to waste; to hoard is to deprive another. The bowl is not just an individual vessel—it represents the community. When one person’s bowl is overfilled, it leaves others with less.
This perspective is a stark contrast to the capitalist mindset, where individual gain often comes at the expense of others. In a communal framework, we are called to take only what we need, trusting that by doing so, there will always be enough for everyone. Our collective bowl remains full only when we work in harmony, meeting mutual needs and supporting one another.
Living in alignment with this principle requires a radical shift. It demands that we redefine success, not as individual achievement but as shared well-being. It calls us to move from “every person for themselves” to “every person for one another.”
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A Life of Mutual Support — Takaways
Redefine Abundance: True abundance is not about having more but about having enough. Ask yourself: What do I really need? Let go of what is unnecessary and trust that simplicity can create space for meaning.
Practice Generosity: Share what you have with those in need—not just material goods, but your time, energy, and attention. Generosity fosters connection and strengthens the collective.
Embrace Interdependence: Recognize that no one succeeds alone. Shift from a mindset of competition to one of cooperation. When we lift others, we all rise.
Create Space for Community: Invest in relationships that are grounded in mutual respect and care. A strong community can meet needs more effectively than any individual striving alone.
Live Mindfully: Pay attention to your choices, asking whether they serve the collective good. By living with intention, you can create a ripple effect that inspires others to do the same.
The Power of a Shared Life
As I reflect on my nomadic, minimalist journey, I realize that the key to a meaningful life isn’t found in individual achievement but in shared connection. There is profound freedom in living simply and profound joy in living interdependently.
I am a testimony to the fact that embracing this. This way of life is not always easy. It requires letting go of ego, stepping away from societal norms, and resisting the allure of excess. But it is worth it.
The Tao teaches us to flow with life, not against it. The Buddha reminds us to take only what we need. Both call us back to a life of harmony, one where competition gives way to cooperation, and personal gain is replaced by collective well-being.
The world doesn’t need more winners. It needs more people willing to share the bowl, to live lightly, and to nurture the connections that sustain us all.
As we move into a time of great uncertainty and transformation, the choice before us is clear: Will we continue to fight for “more,” or will we come together to embrace “enough”? The future of our world—and our humanity—may depend on the answer.
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Diamond- Michael Scott — aka The Chocolate Taoist
An ice cream cone is a pointy bowl made out of crispy cookie dough, and everyone of any sense condemns the way that ice cream overtops the rim. We can mitigate this travesty, of course, by passing round our treat to all the crowd so everybody gets a lick. And when, or if, the cone comes back, unappetising as it seems in my benighted state, I still can take some satisfaction since a system is at fault.
I can sooooo relate to the beauty of living/walking a simpler path thanks to a nomadic life.
Thank you for talking about the importance of connection and community. Both are needed very much in today’s world.