I’m Dating Again … Aww Shucks, It’s Just a Fantasy

“Sometimes I dream of being on a date with a sexy, spiritually alive woman at a sophisticated martini bar. Then jolted awake, I am quickly reminded that I’m a aspiring Taoist monk” 

Diamond Michael Scott, aka The Chocolate Taoist

The martini bar was a haven of dim lighting and sultry jazz, each note hanging in the air like a secret. I arrived early, choosing a corner table with plush seats that promised intimacy. The bartender, a maestro of mixology, prepared a delicate balance of gin and vermouth in my martini, garnished with a single olive. As the evening unfolded, she arrived wearing a hot leather outfit with boots, a vision of grace and poise, her presence instantly shifting the energy in the room. 

Her name was Philipa.

Philipa was the embodiment of serenity, her movements a dance of yin and yang. Her eyes, deep and knowing, hinted at the mysteries of the cosmos. We exchanged pleasantries, and she ordered a lychee martini, her choice a testament to her refined taste. As we sipped our drinks, the conversation naturally drifted towards spirituality, a topic we both held dear.

"Taoism," she began, her voice a melodic whisper, "is fundamentally about the balance of male and female energies, yin and yang. These energies are not separate but arise equally from the primordial flow." Her words were like a gentle stream, guiding me through the intricate dance of cosmic forces. "In a world that often feels fractured and chaotic, embracing these energies within ourselves brings harmony."

I nodded, captivated by her insight. "It's fascinating," I replied, "how Taoist practice focuses on balancing these energies within the self. Historical Taoism developed in a world of conflict and warfare, yet it teaches men to embrace their yin, their feminine qualities. But I've rarely seen material advising women to embrace their yang."

Philipa smiled, a knowing glint in her eye. "That's because yin and yang are not truly gendered. Every mentality is a blend of both. Taoist alchemy, especially uncorrupted, is a system to understand and develop this configuration, to harmonize form and substance, push and withdraw, creation and support."

As our conversation deepened, we explored the intersection of Taoism and Tantra, discussing how both philosophies celebrate the union of male and female energies. "Tantra," she said, her voice soft and inviting, "symbolizes the dynamic world of yin supremacy, much like Taoism. It's about the sacred dance of male and female, a journey of spiritual and sensual awakening."

The waiter interrupted us momentarily, presenting an array of gourmet dishes. We indulged in seared scallops, truffle risotto, and a medley of exotic flavors that tantalized our senses. Each bite was an experience, a fusion of taste and texture that mirrored our conversation's ebb and flow.

Philipa continued, her eyes sparkling with enthusiasm.:

"Taoism offers societal alternatives for women, paths to pursue their own goals as independent agents. Women can practice self-cultivation, serve as mediums, nuns, or priests, even attain immortality. It's a reliable path toward spiritual wisdom and emancipation."

Her words resonated deeply with me. "In Taoism," I mused, "women are given a privileged position by virtue of their own existence. They are admired for the inherent potency of yin and respected for their natural capabilities and distinctive strengths, especially in the process of transforming the basic energy of human life into a continuous channel toward health, virtue, and immortality."

Philipa’s expression softened, and she reached across the table, her fingers lightly brushing mine. "Exactly. The female identity in Taoism expands beyond societal roles defined by others. It includes a profound concern with inner states and cosmic attainment."

We spoke of the five basic images of women in Taoist history: the nurturing mother, the cosmic force of yin, the authoritative teacher, the possessor of supernatural techniques, and the female body as the seat of spiritual transformation. Each role highlighted the multifaceted realities of women's lives and their spiritual significance.

"Consider the Queen Mother of the West," Philipa said, her voice a blend of reverence and wonder. "She possesses the way of Tao and embodies the ideal of female alchemy. Women like her show us that the female body in Taoist tradition is not just a vessel but a temple of transformation and empowerment."

Our conversation flowed like a river, meandering through the depths of spirituality, history, and personal insight. As the night grew darker, the bar's ambiance seemed to cocoon us in a world of our own making. Philipa’s presence was a beacon of yin energy, guiding me toward a deeper understanding of balance and harmony.

In that martini bar, amidst the clinking glasses and murmured conversations, I realized that a woman with Taoistic proclivities brings a unique and profound depth to the journey of life. Her wisdom, serenity, and inner strength were not just attractive qualities but essential companions on the path to spiritual fulfillment. Philipa was not just a date; she was a mirror reflecting the essence of the Tao, a reminder of the beautiful dance of yin and yang that defines our existence.

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